You VS Myself

okay...now is almost 11.30pm...nowadays i just wonder actually to love someone..do we need any criteria? many people will tell others that...what type of boys or girls that they want them to be their bf/gf or husband/wife...? but actually do we need it so much to decide whether to accept the person as our partner or may b more specific....to love them?

ya...i also agree that everyone must have their own criteria, their own level of accepting people...i also did tell my friends that i prefer a guy who is caring, smart, responsible and.....more... but when it comes to a time that i fall in love with someone... there is always a question- why will you love him????? i really cant give an exact answer... as we know...no one is perfect. A lotz of comment and critics that this person not worth or mayb this person not good enough for me to sacrifice...or watever lar... IF i choose to be with him, will anything affects that much to change my mind???? human being normally like to change other people no matter to good or bad... okay..ya..mayb human is like that...or mayb some ppl can say am i think too easy?? this is reality world where every human has unlimited wants.....!!! come on.... love is just a small part of life... of cuz we should choose a better person if we have a chance to choose....

All rite...this topic can't be argue...everyone have their own perception...

Few years back, i am also that kind of person... like to control other people.. like to advice my friends and want them to change to be better... wants everyone to be exactly what I want them to be.... but there was once...my best friend told me.."u know me as who i am, u accept me as who i am...why do u want me to change? moreover we cant change a person in a few days, few weeks or few months...it takes time.. friends should be supporting each other no matter what but not to shoot a person down before he/she did anything wrong? friends is to guide each other not to instruct one another...." After I heard those words.. that was the first time i am stunt and could not giv any answer or feedback... Is true...really true... i know her as her... not to change her to be the person i want... that is not her if i want her to change... And sometimes although our perception is good for them to change... but not neccessary will b a good ending... ya..to be a true friend is not easy.... from that onwards... i never ask my friends to change... i will just stand behind to advice what they did wrong.. human are born to learn... not to follow...

okay...now talking about love... in this century... all girls and boys will have their own criteria on choosing their partner... most of the boys will prefer good looking girls, a nice body shape, intelligent, good appearance and a lot more... most of the girls will prefer smart looking, good body built, protective, intelligent, can afford to spend them and lotz..... ya...pretty realistic... actually very realistic...hehe....but in chinese belief... normally what we want is what we cant get... haha... so u guyz better lower down ur criteria... to me..when the person do not appreciate and will not love us...... then this shows that it is not worth for us to sacrifice more...WORTH cant be refer to those criterias that they able to fulfill.. love a person is actually an unpredictable thing where we will sacrifice anything in order to giv the best to him/her...and is not what we want to get from the person.....

I watched Cinderella 3 few days ago..haha..dun laugh ya.. there is no age limit on watching cartoons.... Anastacia who is one of Cinderella's step sisters...want to married the prince... and her dream is almost fulfill because her mother had stolen the magic wand... and change her to become exactly like Cinderella...but at last... she refused.. this is because... she realise that... she wants a person who love her as who she is... not to love her because she looks exactly like Cinderella... it means the prince does not love her at all... if everyone are there to choose to love a person based on those criteria.... there will always one person who pretend to be perfect in front of the other person.. pretending will not last long.. because it is not an exactly true love... is like a contract...where both parties agree to be the person they want....oh my god...although changes is good... but if we want a person to change immediately, it will either hurt them or hurt both of us... Sometimes things we see are not things we want... although u thought of having him/her is good... but there is thing which u cant see with ur eyes but with ur heart...

Every relationship occurs...there are always two parties..which is "you & me"... no matter how good both people seen by others.. there must be a person who willing to sacrifice more... In my opinion, i can't deny that...criteria may affects our impression on someone...but when u luv someone, will those criteria really bother u??? i also hope that i have a boyfriend or husband who is smart, caring, responsible, able to spend me...and lotz... but...normally the person i love will never have even 2 out of those criterias.... haha.. let me ask u all a question...do all girls outside wants guys that have those criteria that i mention just now??? i think almost all girls want... haha...

When everyone is demanding so much from other ppl...will the person be herself/himself or be the one YOU want them to be...? i think this will makes ppl gone psycho...aikz... in every relationship...is either the person choose to fulfill YOU or to become they ownself...Just try to think...

For those who demand more from ppl... try to ask yourself....how much are you able to giv out before you calculate how much you are going to receive......?

For those who choose to fulfill someone...try to ask yourself... can you get happiness in a pretending relationship??? really...?? if your answer is YES... what i can do is to wish you GOOD LUCK... i can't say you will not get happiness...somehow..this things can't have the exact answer.. if your answer is NO....i think there is time for you to have an open conversation with your partner... there is still chances where both of you can understand each other more...hehe....^_^ GOOD LUCK...!!!!